After visiting with my step-father and giving my mom a much needed hand, I drove home last Sunday. I wasn’t sure if I would see my step-father again or not. He was very weak, but I had seen this from him two other times over the last six years or so. Neither time was related to his lung cancer.
The first time he had Guillain-Barre Syndrome. Ever heard of it? I hadn’t, but now it sticks out like a sore thumb each year when I sign the release form for my flu shot, as there is a potential risk of developing it. I’m not sure how he caught it (he didn't have the flu shot), but basically he was paralyzed from neck to toe for a while. Even his lungs were affected and he had to be put on a respirator to breathe. He overcame it, but from then on had to be hooked up to oxygen and had some permanent nerve damage in his legs and feet.
A few years ago, and I am not sure how this all came about, but his bowels were not working. He was in the hospital for several months with his intestines on the outside of his body (sorry). There were several times during that hospital stay that we thought he wouldn’t make it to live another day. But he always did. He was a tough man with a strong will to live (probably the Marine in him).
Lung cancer finally took his life. I’m glad that I was able to visit him one last time (mom lives 350 miles away). I’ve known him for about twenty years and he was married to mom for almost sixteen. He was an alcoholic and many thought him to be a grumpy old man. Personally, I think he was just honest and if he didn’t care for you much, he let you know by how he treated you. He always liked my husband and me and was always kind to us.
Mom will miss him, but I think she is glad to have it over. I don’t mean that harshly, but the last few years have taken a toll on her health as she put off taking care of some things because she needed to be around to take care of him. Even though he had tons and tons of friends, there won’t be a service. Instead he wanted a gathering at a local bar with him footing the bill one last time. May he rest in peace.
This weekend hasn’t been the best food wise, but I did do some cooking. Also, I have the house stocked up and some meals and vegetables prepped for the week. I plan to start following the Whole30 approach, maybe easing into it the next couple of days. I was more active this weekend than I have been in the recent past, although today has been mostly restful. It’s definitely a move in the right direction, now I need to keep stepping it up.