Yesterday I weighed in to see the results of my first
week. Unfortunately, it was just as I
had expected. It was not the loss you
would expect from a 387 pounder after their first week, you know something like
six pounds or more. Instead, I lost one
pound. No excuses, I did poorly.
This week will be a challenge. My step-father has lung cancer and may be in
his last days. He doesn’t want to go to
the hospital so my mom is home taking care of him. It is taking a toll on her health as
well. Tomorrow morning I am heading over
the mountain to lend a hand. I cannot
tell my mom that I am coming, because she would tell me not to. She is the most stubborn person I have ever
known and I know she could rival anyone for the top spot, if there ever was
one. Everything she does is under the
guise that she believes she is helping you.
She wants to pay for everything, she wants to do everything for you and
she won’t take help. My Aunt (mom’s
younger sister) is with her right now and I can only imagine how that is going.
Now my mom is taking care of her husband and making sure that my Aunt is fed
and taken care of. I know that my mom
feels she has to take care of me too and she will try. No, she will insist. But, I can handle my mother. Most times, I let her win because in the long
run it’s not worth it. Knowing all this,
I am heading there anyway. I think I can
help her out. I’m not the most nurturing person and don’t
have much experience taking care of others.
Still, I know I can help and not be a burden. I will need to talk her into first. For that reason, there is a chance that I
will be heading home the day after. If I
find that she is not allowing me to help her and is instead taking care of me,
I will leave. After all, I don’t want to
cause mom any more stress.
Besides the challenge of dealing with my mom’s stubbornness and
refusal to accept help, my eating will be a challenge this week. Mom likes to make sure people are well fed
when visiting. She is worse than a car salesman
in a slump. I will be strong this trip
and will insist that I do the cooking.
This will be a hard fight to win, but I am up for it. One, because mom needs any rest she can get
and two, because I want to control the types of food and portions that I am
eating.
While this week is taking me out of my usual routine and may
be a challenge, I plan to be successful nevertheless. I am determined to lose more than one pound
this week.
Do you have any challenges this week? How do you plan to overcome them?
Good luck with your mom it sounds like you have a plan in action :). I know you are bummed about losing a pound but just think if you lost a pound a week. That's 52 in a year. It all adds up.
ReplyDeleteI'm mostly disappointed because I know I didn't make much of an effort and can do better. I would be happy to lose 52 pounds, it's way more than I have been able to do for years.
DeleteThis will be a very challenging week. Besides maybe not being in control of the food, you will find yourself in a VERY stressful situation. If things don't go perfectly, give yourself some grace and move on! You are a good daughter for going and trying to help.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment Debby. My Step-Father is looking a little better than I had expected. I will try and watch my portions as best as I can while here.
DeleteWhat a stressful situation for you! I'm sorry you are dealing with that but it's good that you have a plan and are already prepared for some of the challenges you might face, I always struggle to when going home to eat, my mom just has a totally different mentality about food and whats "healthy" and how to cook things. Hopefully you will be able to help your mom and find some peace.
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by! My mom doesn't like to accept help, but I will keep trying to get her to leave the house for awhile.
DeleteI just got out of a 3 month funk... and I have been banded for well over 18 months. Good times come and go! Just keep at it.
ReplyDeleteI hope that you are successful with your mom! What a hard situation.
One of the things that has helped me the most over the past almost 2 years is a saying my Dad told me one day when I was stressing (I am a perfectionist) because I wasn't getting all my workouts in. He said "sometimes all you can do, is all you can do." It sounds so "duh" but it really made me realize that I don't have to and can't always be perfect. Just do what you can and when things settle down, push and do more.
I like that saying, thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about your step-father - that is really stressful for everyone. My advice to you is to focus on the time with your family and not stress about the food. When your mom offers you food, take some if you want, but just pay attention to the portion sizes. That's an easy thing to control and you don't have to think too much about it.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and your family.
Sorry to hear about your step father :( Try to set a goal every day and stick to it whether it be an extra walk or staying away from sugar. You'll feel better if you can accomplish something positive when you're surrounded by stressful situations!
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